[and yet she is speaking to him, rather than doing all she can to remove him from her life.]

As is your right, but I recommend you take a serious look at your behaviour and who it may be impacting. Whether you believe you deserve negative consequences or not, whether you think it is acceptable to make those around you think of you as poorly as you do yourself, people who care will see the change and know it isn't as simple as you are trying to make it out to be.